How to Enjoy Mutual Masturbation With Your Partner

​Mutual masturbation is an exciting and intimate act that will make your next partner play session truly unforgettable. Whether you’re after a fun alternative to penetrative sex or just fancy exploring new sensations, mutual masturbation can reignite your connection and spice up your sex life. In this how-to guide, we’ll take you through a successful mutual masturbation session, from prep to tools, and methods to make it as enjoyable as possible. But first, let’s talk about what mutual masturbation is and why it can be so great for your relationship.

​Mutual masturbation is an intimate sex act that has two different definitions. The first, which we’ll call "simultaneous masturbation," involves masturbating at the same time as your partner, with each of you stimulating your own erogenous zones. The second, which we’ll call "reciprocal masturbation," means stimulating your partner while they do the same to you. Mutual masturbation is a fun and exciting alternative to penetrative sex. Whether you choose to try one or the other kind of mutual manual play, or even both in a single session, the LOVE Team is here to help you make the most of it.

​Mutual masturbation offers a number of benefits that can make your partner play sessions unforgettable (with no penetration needed!). Here are a few reasons why you should try mutual masturbation tonight:

If you're not quite ready for penetrative sex, especially in a new relationship, mutual masturbation is an excellent way to take your time and explore your partner's body at a slower rhythm.

​Even if you've already had penetrative sex, you may not always be in the mood to go all the way. Mutual masturbation allows you to switch things up and add a touch of newness to your intimate moments. For instance, if you (or your partner) have your period and are wearing a tampon, this act offers a pleasant alternative.

​Mutual masturbation can make your couple’s play sessions more fun and exciting. Think of it as a game, playing "who can come first" or "who can make the other come first." These little challenges will make your session more thrilling!

​Mutual masturbation is the perfect sex act for couples in a long-distance relationship. Even though you’re geographically separated, pleasuring yourselves at the same time is the perfect activity to maintain intimacy from afar. You can enjoy a mutual masturbation session by webcam or by phone, helping you stay connected and enjoy sexual activity despite the physical distance between you.

​Mutual masturbation is a relatively safe sexual activity. Just always remember to wash your hands before touching your partner’s intimate areas if you’ve come into contact with body fluids. This will help you reduce the risks while maximising your pleasure.

​Ready to explore the pleasures of mutual masturbation? Follow our step-by-step tips for a successful first session with your favourite partner.

​Communication is key in any relationship, and this rule is especially true when it comes to super-intimate sex acts like mutual masturbation. Before you begin your session, you’ll want to chat with your partner to make sure you're both comfortable with the idea. Self-pleasure can be a very personal and intimate act, and it's important that everything is consensual. Make sure you're both on the same page and ready to explore this new experience together. Having an honest discussion will create an environment of trust and respect, which is essential for any successful sex session.

For a successful mutual self-stimulation play, choosing the right location is essential. Whether you're enjoying a reciprocal or simultaneous masturbation session, you’ll want to find a clean, quiet, and intimate space. Your bedroom, on the bed, or even the couch in your living room are great options. If you’re living with your parents or flatmates, make sure to pick a time when you won't be disturbed.

​Prepare everything you need beforehand so you won’t be interrupted. You’ll want to have some lube on hand, pillows for extra comfort, and even condoms nearby if you think your session might lead to penetrative sex later. A good lube will enhance glide and make your experience even more enjoyable.

​To set a romantic and sensual mood, consider lighting some candles and playing soft, romantic music. These little touches will help make the moment even more special.

​For a satisfying mutual masturbation session, you’ll want to find just the right position. Here are some comfy and sexy positions to try, whether you're stimulating your own bits or your partner's:

• Side-by-side: This is the simplest position and ideal if you’re on the shy side. In this position, both of you lie down side by side and stimulate your own erogenous zones. Keep in mind that this position can be a bit trickier when stimulating your partner, as it will be harder to access each other's bodies and your arm will become tired more quickly.
• Missionary with a twist: As the name suggests, this position is similar to the missionary position but without penetration. One partner lies down on their back and the other stays on top. This is a great position for both kinds of mutual masturbation.
• Face-to-face: The ultimate position for voyeurs! You’ll have an unbeatable view of your partner's body, and vice versa. Sit facing each other with your legs intertwined for an intense visual and tactile experience.

​All of these positions offer unique sensations and can be adapted to your comfort level. Feel free to experiment to find what works best for you and makes your session even more exciting.

​For a successful mutual masturbation session, it's essential to guide your partner on what brings you the most pleasure. Start gently by touching your own body to show them exactly what you enjoy. Show them which erogenous zones are most sensitive, what type of pressure you prefer, and the speed and intensity that you like.

​This is the perfect opportunity to communicate your preferences visually and tactilely. By showing them what feels good, you help your partner understand your desires better and replicate them. This step not only strengthens your connection but also enhances your mutual pleasure. Don't hesitate to switch roles so that each of you can learn what turns the other on.

​For a successful mutual masturbation session, you’ll want to guide your partner to show them what brings you the most pleasure. Start gently by touching your own body to show them exactly what you enjoy. Tell them which erogenous zones are most sensitive, what amount of pressure you prefer, and the speed and intensity that you like.

​This is the perfect opportunity to communicate your preferences both visually and tactilely. By showing them what feels good, you’ll help your partner understand what you like in bed, so they can better satisfy you. This step will not only strengthen your connection but also enhance your mutual pleasure. Try to switch roles so that both of you can learn what turns the other on.

​To kick off your mutual masturbation session, begin with a bit of simultaneous masturbation. Start fondling your own bits while your partner watches to get each other warmed up. This step will allow each of you to see what the other enjoys and to get excited for what's to come. It's an easy and gentle way to ease into the idea of mutual masturbation.

​To add even more excitement, you can even experiment with dirty talk. Tell your partner how turned on you are and what you're feeling. This verbal communication will turn both of you on, making the experience even more erotic.

Now that you're both turned on, it's time to move on to the next step: stimulating each other’s favourite erogenous zones. The next step is to masturbate your partner until they reach orgasm, and vice versa. Remember to start slowly and check in regularly to make sure everything feels good for your partner. Keep in constant communication with your partner, ask for feedback and adjust the stimulation accordingly.

​Likewise, encourage your partner by letting them know what you enjoy and keep using dirty talk to show them how turned on you are. Let your partner know when you're about to come so you can share the moment together.

​To add even more pleasure to your mutual masturbation session, why not add a sex toy or two? The possibilities are endless! You can stimulate your partner (or yourself) with a vibrator, wear an anal toy at the same time, use nipple clamps, or use a manual masturbator. For a touch of mystery, you can both wear eye masks to enjoy yourselves in total darkness.

​The important thing is that both of you are comfortable with everything that happens during the session. Feel free to experiment with different toys to enjoy different kinds of pleasure. The variety will make your experience even more satisfying.

​If it's your first time, things might not go exactly as you imagined. You may need to change positions until you find one that's most comfortable for both of you, or try different types of stimulation to see what works best. It's also possible that one of you might not enjoy the experience.

In that case, open communication is crucial. If something doesn't feel right, you need to let your partner know. You can always try simply watching them masturbate solo, or you can even end the session if it's not working for you. The important thing is that both of you feel respected and comfortable.

After you've both reached orgasm, you’ll have to take the time to clean up any bodily fluids from your bodies or surroundings. Even if the session didn't include penetration, you’ll want to be mindful of fluids coming into contact with your genitals if you’re not using protection.

A fun way to clean up is to take a shower together. Not only will this allow you to get squeaky clean, but it will also make your intimate session last longer. Who knows, maybe a shared shower will get you excited again and ready for another round!

​After your mutual masturbation session, take the time to discuss your mutual masturbation session. Talking about your experience will ensure that your partner is okay and comfortable with everything that happened. This will also be an opportunity to find out if they'd like to do it again.

Best case scenario, the discussion will make you excited all over again by allowing you to relive the adventure you just shared together. Sharing your thoughts and feelings will strengthen the intimate bond you share and help you better understand each other's boundaries.

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Mutual masturbation can be an incredibly fun and enriching experience for both of you. Satisfying yourselves together will rev up your intimate relationship and allow you to explore new sensations together. Using sex toys during your session will give you even more pleasure. If you need help choosing the perfect toy, feel free to reach out to the LOVE Team. We're here to guide you and help you enjoy unforgettable moments!