Sometimes a man’s orgasm can take an unexpected turn, leaving you wondering what’s just happened. Retrograde ejaculation, also known as a dry orgasm, is one of those things that doesn’t always get talked about but can leave you scratching your head when it happens. Join the LOVE Team and we break down what it is, what causes it, and what you can do about it.
Picture this: you’re in the middle of an intense sex session, things are reaching their peak, and you feel the orgasm hit—only to realise that nothing (or almost nothing) has actually comes out of your penis. What’s going on? Before you panic, it’s good to know that this is a common, though lesser-known, occurrence called retrograde ejaculation.
While it might sound a bit mysterious, it’s generally harmless and happens to some men at one point or another. It might feel odd at first, but understanding what’s going on can take the edge off any worry. Let’s get into it.
What Is Retrograde Ejaculation and Why Does It Happen?
Retrograde ejaculation, or a dry orgasm, is a less typical kind of male climax where everything happens internally. Instead of exiting through your penis, the semen is redirected to your bladder. But what’s actually going on inside your body?
During a typical orgasm, your ejaculate—a complex mix produced by the seminal vesicles, testes, and prostate—is sent down your urethra. From there, your pelvic muscles contract to push the semen out of your body. In the case of retrograde ejaculation, this process is disrupted. Instead of following its usual route, the ejaculate takes a detour into the bladder.
So, why does this happen? There are a few possible reasons. It might be due to a blockage in your urethra or an issue with your bladder’s sphincter muscle. This is often linked to surgeries involving the prostate, bladder neck, or pelvic area. Other causes include complications from diabetes or side effects from certain medications, such as psychiatric treatments or blood pressure drugs.
While retrograde ejaculation is usually harmless, it can be confusing if you’re not expecting it. If you want to pinpoint the cause or learn how to manage it better, you should have a chat with a healthcare professional. They can offer insight and advice tailored to your situation.
What Does Retrograde Ejaculation Mean for Fertility and Contraception?
A common question when it comes to sex and retrograde ejaculation is this: if your semen doesn’t leave your penis during orgasm, can you still get your partner pregnant or pass on an STI?
Interestingly, some groups (like the Oneida community) have experimented with retrograde ejaculation as a method of contraception. This involves intentionally redirecting semen into the bladder by applying pressure to the perineum during orgasm. That said, this approach is highly unreliable. If retrograde ejaculation happens involuntarily, it’s essential to keep using protection during sex.
Here’s why: even in cases of retrograde ejaculation, small amounts of semen can still be released during orgasm or in your pre-ejaculate, which could potentially lead to pregnancy or transmit a sexually transmitted infection (STI). You should also know that STIs can still be transmitted without ejaculation.
On the flip side, if retrograde ejaculation is affecting your fertility and making conception difficult, there are solutions available. A fertility specialist can assess your situation and recommend treatments, which might include retrieving sperm from the bladder or exploring other advanced medical options.
Stay safe, stay informed, and don’t hesitate to consult a healthcare professional if you have any concerns or questions.
How Is Retrograde Ejaculation Treated?
While retrograde ejaculation can come as a surprise, it’s usually harmless and, in many cases, entirely treatable. The first step is to book an appointment with your GP, who can guide you towards solutions tailored to your situation.
Treatment will depend on the underlying cause. In some cases, medication can help—particularly if the issue involves a malfunctioning bladder sphincter or a diabetes-related complication. That said, medications aren’t a one-size-fits-all fix and may not be effective for every cause of retrograde ejaculation.
The good news? Surgery is rarely required. Surgical interventions are usually reserved for very specific cases, and even then, results can vary. For most men, medical or even behavioural solutions are more than enough.
It’s also a good idea to talk things through with your partner. An orgasm without visible ejaculation may leave your lover feeling a bit puzzled, but an open conversation about the condition can help ease their concerns and strengthen your intimate bond.
If retrograde ejaculation is something you’re dealing with, the only solution is to seek advice from a healthcare professional and discuss it with your partner. With the right guidance, it’s entirely possible to manage this condition and feel more at ease with it.
If you notice something unusual during your most intimate moments, like retrograde ejaculation, the first step is to contact a healthcare professional. A medical evaluation will reassure you and help you find the right solution. After all, feeling confident in your sexual health is essential for fully enjoying your intimate life.