Living Without Sex: Can You Really Do It?

Posted on 20 October 2023 by Natalia
Living Without Sex: Can You Really Do It?
In a world where sex is splashed all over the media and is the hot topic of many a pub chat, the idea of living without it might seem a bit bonkers, if not downright unthinkable for some. Yet, there's a fair few out there who, for a spell or for the long haul, decide to hit the pause button on all things bedroom-related. So, is a sex-free life genuinely a feasible idea?

For some, living without sex is strictly about ditching the physical deeds. For others, it's more about a dip in desire or a missing mojo. And in some cases, it might even stretch to a lack of emotional closeness.

Why do some choose a life without sex?

It's not just a whim or a phase. There's a myriad of reasons why some decide to step off the sexual merry-go-round. Let's dive into the nitty-gritty of why some are giving the horizontal tango a miss.

Physiological reasons

  • Medical or hormonal issues: Certain medical conditions or hormonal imbalances can throw a spanner in the works of one's libido, making the act of love either a tad uncomfortable or downright painful, leading some to opt out. 
  • Age-related changes: As the years roll on, our bodies naturally evolve, which can play a bit of havoc with our sexual function or desire, prompting some to have a rethink about their bedroom antics.

Psychological reasons

  • Past traumas: Those who've had a rough ride with traumatic sexual experiences might find it tough to get close and personal. 
  • Anxiety or depression: These emotional states can seriously dampen one's sexual fire and the ability to engage in the act. Self-confidence Issues: Feeling a bit iffy about one's body or lacking in the confidence department can make getting intimate a challenge for some.

Sociocultural reasons

  • Social pressure: Some cultures or communities have sky-high expectations when it comes to virginity, chastity, or toeing the line with certain sexual standards. 
  • Religious or spiritual values: A good number of religions champion sexual abstinence outside of wedlock or hold chastity in high regard as a spiritual ideal.

Relational reasons

  • Flying solo: While being on one's tod isn't always by choice, it can lead to a sex-free existence, especially if one isn't on the hunt for a partner.
  • Desire or libido mismatches in a relationship: Relationships can be a tricky business. In some pairings, stark differences in terms of desire or drive can lead to a mutual timeout.

The perks of a sex-free life

Choosing to live without sex isn't about missing out; it's about gaining in different ways. Far from being a sign of giving something up, it can be a golden ticket to deep self-exploration and a fresh kind of connection with oneself and others.

Self-rediscovery: Without the distractions or intricacies that can sometimes come with a sexual life, many find a renewed clarity. This clarity allows them to truly get to grips with who they are and pinpoint what they're after in life.


Finding other kinds of intimacy: With sex off the table, there's a whole world of other intimate connections to be made. Whether it's heart-to-heart chats, non-sexual touch, or shared experiences, these moments can forge bonds that are just as strong and meaningful.

Less societal stress or pressure: Whether it's the weight of notching up a certain number of partners, chasing specific experiences, or meeting performance expectations, breaking free from these norms can pave the way for a more chilled and genuine life.

Deeper spirituality for some: For those leaning into spirituality or religion, sexual abstinence can be seen as a path to a deeper connection with the divine, nature, or their inner self. By stepping back from earthly desires, they often find a completeness and tranquillity that goes beyond the physical.

Sex toys: Tools for exploration

Solo play as self-care: Think of it as setting aside a bit of "me time", diving into a journey where you explore your own body with kindness, a thirst for knowledge, and a dose of relaxation.
Sex toys as a route to understanding one's body and desires: Sex toys offer a smorgasbord of sensations, helping you get to know your body better, both the erogenous and the not-so-much zones. They're ace for discovering what really floats your boat and what keeps you comfy. This can be especially spot-on for those who, after a sexual hiatus, decide to dip their toes back into the world of intimacy, but with a heightened awareness and in tune with their own wants and boundaries.