Is She Faking It? How to Tell and What to Do

Have you ever wondered if your partner has genuinely climaxed during sex or merely feigned it to please you? According to an NIH survey, this concern is more common than you might think: almost 60% of women have faked an orgasm at least once in their lives. So, it's perfectly natural to wonder if she’s truly climaxed and for you to want to make sure your partner is experiencing as much pleasure as you are.

In this article, we'll explore why some women opt to fake it, how to discern if she's truly reached the big O or not, and crucially, how to react if you suspect she's faked it. Follow the LOVE Team's tips for a fulfilling and satisfying sex life for both partners.

There are several reasons why a woman might choose to fake an orgasm during sex. Here are some of the most common:

• She doesn't want to disappoint you: For many men, the ability to satisfy a woman is a matter of virility. If she senses you're preoccupied with making her climax, she might choose to fake it to avoid hurting your feelings or making you uncomfortable.
• She wants to turn you on: Some women might think that faking it is a way to arouse their partner and make sex more exciting. This could be due to unrealistic expectations created by porn.
• She thinks faking it might turn her on for real: Some women might adopt the '”fake it till you make it”' approach and fake an orgasm in the hope that it will help them achieve genuine pleasure. While this adage is mostly used in a professional context to boost self-confidence, some women might apply it to their sex lives by faking an orgasm to try and feel more aroused.
• She knows she isn’t going to come and wants it to be over with: Sometimes, a woman knows she won't have an orgasm during sex, but she still wants to satisfy her partner. In this case, she might choose to fake an orgasm to end the sexual encounter. Female pleasure is often influenced by psychological factors, such as stress, anxiety, or self-confidence, and faking an orgasm won't resolve these underlying issues.

Remember, every woman is different, and these reasons won't apply to everyone. However, understanding these reasons can help you better understand your partner's behaviour and improve communication in your relationship.

It can be tricky to determine if a woman has faked an orgasm or not, but here are some signs that might help you figure out if she's genuinely climaxed:

• She orgasms after minimal foreplay: Most women, unlike some men, require a lot of stimulation before and during sex to reach orgasm. If she climaxes after only a few minutes of pure penetration, it could be a sign she's faked it.
• She puts on a big show: if she behaves like a porn star, obviously exaggerating her moans and groans, it could be a sign that she’s not experiencing true pleasure. The noises made by a woman who's genuinely orgasming are often more subtle and natural.
• She doesn't have vaginal contractions: In most cases, when a woman orgasms, she has muscular contractions in her vagina that you can feel if your penis is still inside of her. In the case of a major orgasm, you may even feel the contractions by placing your hand on her belly. If you don't feel anything like that, it could be a sign she’s faking it.
• She’s able to breathe and speak normally immediately after her “orgasm”: After an intense climax, a woman usually needs a minute or two (or more!) to catch her breath and relax. If she seems perfectly normal after sex, as if nothing has happened, it could be a sign she's faked it.
• She has the same complexion post-O: After an orgasm, a woman often has flushed skin and rosy cheeks due to the rush of blood to the area. If her complexion hasn’t changed at all post-sex, it could be a sign she's faked it.
• You both orgasm at the exact same time: Although a perfectly mutual orgasm can happen on occasion, it's rare that both partners climax simultaneously every time they have sex. If it seems too good to be true, it could be a sign she's faked it.
• Ask her outright: If you're genuinely concerned about whether she's faked an orgasm or not, the best thing to do is ask her directly. Communication is vital in a healthy and fulfilling sexual relationship.

Bear in mind that these signs aren't foolproof, and every woman is different. However, by paying attention to these signs, you might be able to better understand if your partner has genuinely climaxed or not.

If you discover that your partner has faked an orgasm, here are some tips to respondin the right way:

Reassure her: Tell her you're not offended and that you simply want to understand. Explain that you want her to be satisfied and sexually fulfilled, and that you're willing to work together to achieve that.

Ask her what turns her on: It's possible that your partner doesn't know herself what turns her on the most. Encourage her to explore her body and discover what gives her the most pleasure so that she can tell you.

Explore different erogenous zones: Remember that a woman's body is full of erogenous zones, and vaginal penetration isn't the only way to give her pleasure (in fact, many women struggle to climax from vaginal stimulation alone). Try stimulating her other erogenous zones, such as her breasts, butt, neck, and ears.

Take your time: Don't rush into sex. Take the time to focus on foreplay and ensure your partner is sufficiently aroused before moving on to penetration.

Try sex toys: Sex toys can be an excellent way to stimulate her clitoris and other erogenous zones during penetrative sex. Don't be afraid to use sex toys to enhance her pleasure! For example, using a bullet vibrator to stimulate her clit while you penetrate her will give her the gift of double stimulation. Plus, it's important not to view sex toys as a threat or competition. On the contrary, they can be an essential tool you can use to better satisfy your partner.

Talk to your partner about her needs and desires, and be prepared to listen to and address her concerns. By working together, you can improve your sex life and ensure that you're both satisfied and fulfilled.

Remember that the main goal of sex is for both partners to have a good time and be satisfied. Experiment with different positions and communicate openly with your partner to discover new types of pleasure.

Mutual satisfaction in bed will strengthen your relationship and make you both happier in the long run. If you have any questions about the female orgasm, don't forget that the LOVE Team is here to help and guide you. Feel free to contact us at any time.