Every October, our cities come alive in a sea of pink, social media feeds are dotted with ribbons of the same hue, and the conversation around breast cancer becomes louder. Welcome to Breast Cancer Awareness Month, a time dedicated to shedding light on and preventing this illness.
But beyond the stats, screening drives, and events, are deeply personal stories of lives transformed, not only by the disease itself, but by an often overlooked and sometimes ignored aftermath: your sex life.
Understanding breast cancer
What is breast cancer?
There are various types of breast cancer, with the most common being ductal carcinoma in situ and invasive ductal carcinoma. Treatments differ based on the type and stage of the cancer and can range from surgery, radiotherapy, chemotherapy, hormone therapy, or a combination of these approaches.
Physical aftereffects
By the numbers
The physical effects of breast cancer
The side effects of breast cancer treatments
- Fatigue: More than just feeling "a tad tired", this fatigue can be all-consuming and persistent. It can dampen the desire for intimacy or any form of sexual activity.
- Hot flashes: Especially prevalent in women undergoing hormone therapy, hot flashes can unexpectedly turn an intimate moment awkward and unsettling.
- Vaginal dryness: Some treatments can lead to a reduction in oestrogen levels, causing vaginal dryness. This condition can make sexual encounters painful and less enjoyable, sometimes necessitating the use of lubricants to enhance comfort.
The impact of surgical procedures on body image
- Mastectomy: The removal of one or both breasts can be a profound challenge, both physically and emotionally. The overwhelming feeling of "loss" can hinder the acceptance of this transformed body and the resumption of a fulfilling sex life.
- Other surgeries: Procedures like reconstructive surgery or the insertion of implants can also influence sexuality. While some women find comfort and a renewed sense of confidence from these surgeries, others might feel a degree of discomfort or a sense of unfamiliarity with their new body.
The psychological fallout
Mourning your pre-cancer body image: Scars, partial or total removal of a breast, and other visible changes demand a grieving process. Women often grapple with the loss of a body they once knew, a body they had learned to love, cherish, and identify with.
- Fear of Pain: Vaginal dryness or heightened post-operative sensitivity can make the prospect of sexual activity daunting or even frightening.
- Fear of rejection: Bodily transformations may lead to fears of appearing less desirable in a partner's eyes or concerns that they might not understand or respect new boundaries.
- Lack of desire: Amidst all the emotional and physical turmoil, it's not uncommon for sexual desire to wane or even vanish temporarily.
The Impact on self-confidence and self-esteem: Self-confidence is deeply entwined with body image. When this image is disrupted, confidence can waver. Women might feel less "womanly", less powerful, less competent, and may doubt their ability to attract or be loved. This dip in self-esteem can ripple beyond the bedroom, impacting daily, professional, and social lives.